Reframe Anxiety About Being Compared to Others

You have been told that everyone is on their own journey and you are exactly where you need to be, and it has not helped. Comparison anxiety is not irrational and dismissing it does not make it stop. This is a more accurate reading of what the comparisons are actually telling you and what to do with the discomfort rather than just wait for it to pass.

I keep measuring myself against other people and coming off worse. Help me reframe this comparison anxiety with something more accurate than 'everyone is on their own journey'. Specifically: what is comparison anxiety actually doing psychologically, what information the comparisons are and are not giving me, and one concrete way to use the discomfort as information rather than just noise. Be direct. I do not need comfort; I need a better frame.