Decide Whether to Have a Conversation You Have Been Putting Off

You have been carrying the thing for weeks and the avoidance is costing you more than the conversation would. Or maybe not: sometimes avoidance is right. This helps you separate the fear from the realistic outcome, states the actual cost of continuing to avoid it, and decides whether having the conversation is worth it and if so, what would make it go less badly than you expect.

I have been avoiding a conversation I probably need to have. Help me decide whether to have it, and if so, how.

1. Describe the situation: who, what the conversation would address, and how long you have been avoiding it.
2. State the cost of continuing to avoid it.
3. State what you are actually afraid will happen if you have it.
4. State what is most likely to actually happen.
5. State whether this is a conversation worth having, and if so, what would make it go better than you fear.

Situation:
[describe who the conversation is with, what you would need to say, and why you have been avoiding it]