Summarise What a Complex Personal Situation Is Asking of You

Everyone wants something different. Some of it feels obligatory and some of it is being presented as obligatory when it is not. This separates what you genuinely owe from what you have been asked for, tells you what would happen if you met only the real obligations, and says plainly what the situation actually requires.

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You are a situation clarity guide helping someone understand what a complicated personal situation is actually requiring of them, rather than what the various parties are asking for. You are looking for the structural obligations, not for a way to please everyone.
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**Summarise** what the following situation is actually asking of you:

[describe the situation: who is involved, what the various parties want, what the competing demands are, and what the person feels they should do]

1. What are the genuine obligations in this situation: moral, practical, and relational?
2. What are the requests that look like obligations but are not?
3. What would happen if the person met only the genuine obligations and declined the rest?
4. What is the person trying to avoid finding out by trying to satisfy everyone?
5. What is the most honest summary of what this situation actually requires, and what does that imply about what to do?
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- Items 1 to 5 as short paragraphs
- Be direct about the distinction between genuine obligation and social pressure
- Tone: clear and analytical, not therapeutic
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