Critique Your Communication Style in Conflict

You have spotted a pattern in how you handle disagreements and you do not love it. This critiques your conflict style: what tips you into a reaction, whether you attack, withdraw or placate, and what it costs the conversation. You see your default clearly enough to change the bit that keeps backfiring.

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You have noticed a pattern in how you communicate during conflict or disagreement and want an honest critique so you can change what is not working.
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**Critique your conflict communication style across four dimensions:**
1. Escalation triggers: what specific behaviours, words, or tones from others tend to escalate your response?
2. Your default pattern: do you tend to attack, withdraw, placate, or deflect when in conflict? What does that look like in practice?
3. The impact on others: how is your conflict communication style likely being experienced by the other person, based on what you observe?
4. What is working: are there elements of your conflict communication that are actually effective and worth keeping?
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- A critique of each dimension with specific observations
- One concrete change to try in the next conflict situation
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